carved in stone

 

“Believing that your qualities are carved in stone

creates the urgency for you to prove yourself over and over”

Carol S. Dweck, PhD,

Mindset: A New Psychology of Success and Achievement

The image above is from a friend and gifted sculptor, Steve Fraser, who infuses life into stone with his work to the point that you can almost see the face he created in the stonework smiling, breathing comfortably, ever-growing in awareness and contributing to the world around him.

The reverse process of encasing life in stone does not work so well.

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like to be on a firm foundation in life with some consistency, some continuity to rest in.  But creating a rock-solid version of the story you tell yourself about the way things really are leaves no room for potential, mystery, poetry, hope, distress, recovery or resilience.  If your truth is already carved out then what’s the point of getting up in the morning?

Resilience in the face of turbulence calls for the courage to be creatively flexible.

What could happen if you would:

  • Listen to the thoughts you think
  • Notice the words you choose to use
  • Become aware of the emotions that arise
  • Recognize how your story sprouts directly from the frequent repetition of these
  • Believe you are absolutely creative enough to re-write several possible story lines
  • Re-script the thoughts and words to craft a stellar ending with killer plot twists!

The story grows, changes, evolves and you have a key role to play in writing the ending.

 

 

breaking good

The calendar, the empty hallways and the locked school doors all tell me its time to rest and to take a much-needed, week-long break from teaching, supporting student learning and administrating all sorts of never-ending administrivia.

Even though I’m not rushing through a regular work week, I’m becoming more aware of how deep rest is not the mere absence of work and imminent deadlines. And how its not that easy to cultivate simply because there is more time for it.

Whether you find yourself catching warm rays on a beach this week, travelling with friends and family or hibernating at home against the devious return of the biting winds of winter, it seems that deep rest and nourishing restoration is a minute-by-minute choice.

nature resting deeply

nature resting deeply

For me, its a choice this week to:

1. Transform my allegiance to the clock as lord and master to instead choosing to listen deeply to the needs of my body

 
2. Wholeheartedly do whatever I’m doing whether its sleeping, eating, sitting, stretching, walking, cooking, reading or writing

 
3. Take intentional, extended breaks from electronics, screens and pseudo-connectors and choose to listen deeply to those around me

 
4. Hydrate often, mindfully nourish my body with goodness and to choose to pause frequently to engage in deep, mindful breathing

 
5. Resist the urge to allow the word “should” into my mind or my mouth

 
6. Be grateful for time to pause and to rest deeply.

 

Here’s to learning how to break ‘good’ this week and for the days to come.