Reflections on Resilience

oh, how you shine!

As the fuss and fluster of the end of school season settles, a calmness that comes from being back in the quiet space of my own making moves through me, like a welcome summer breeze. The rare treat of a second, unhurried cup of morning coffee is accompanied by reading a work of fiction while snugly wrapped in a cotton blanket.  The blanket was recently gifted to me by my sister because she thought it looked like a blanket that belongs to a writer. Warmed by the coffee and my new blanket, I also spend time engaging in backwards and ...
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walking wounded

  They sling uninformed arrows from empty quivers. They find fault in everyone else but themselves. They sting others quickly to prevent themselves from being stung. They tend to see themselves repeatedly as the victim of someone else’s crime. They fail to see kindness, compassion or joy. Or if they do see something even lightly tinged with grace, it is quickly taken over by a heavy grievance against someone or something.   So they walk and they wound. They tend to endlessly pick at and pester others, they control, complain, argue and hurt those around them.   Hurt people hurt ...
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why i sit

  I sit. Intentionally. In silence.     It is certainly not because I’m a calm, balanced person who lives devoutly among the pure and the pious. Nor it is because I exude self-discipline. Far from it. Sitting started out simply as my way to overcome the overwhelm, to quell the tsunami of thoughts and lower my oft-rampant heart rate for a sense of overall well-being. It was basically a physical solution to a spiritual problem.  But that has transformed into something more akin to falling down the rabbit hole where the experience has become curiouser and curiouser. While I ...
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ride on

  unusual paths Even though it’s February, my path to work did not look like this.  In fact, I had the incredible joy of cycling to work this week.       Along with the sheer lack of snow and ice along the bike path that weaves through town, the biggest motivator for me to commute by bike that morning, was an amazing morning light. The kind of light that radiates hope.   It was as if I was looking through the shadowy tunnel of a dim, distant winter and seeing soft yellow-orange rays of sun peeking through.  For this reason, it’s ...
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everything is practice

    On the mat. On the cushion. In the kitchen. In relationships. Everything is a path.       These paths are an education in how to be:   responsive instead of being reactive open to what’s really happening less fearful of how things might turn out less clingy to how you wish things were more skillful in communicating more compassionate to self and others   Diligence in one area impacts the others like ripples on a pond.   From downward dog to doing the dishes, each path is a route that can lead to deep awakening with awareness ...
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rewiring thought patterns – hidden beliefs exposed (part 4)

  Once upon a time, it was believed that our brains were wired by our early experiences as young children and then hard-wired by the time we reached early adulthood.  We bought into this with our exclamations of:   “I can’t help it, that’s the way I was born.“ “I’ve always been this way.” “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”   Neuroscience research has now discovered that our brains are much more adaptive than that.  Based on new experiences, the brain can create new neural pathways and revise current, outdated ones that are no longer useful. The discovery ...
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words in action – hidden beliefs exposed (part 3)

  Richard Rodgers of the Rodgers and Hammerstein songwriting duo was the creative force behind the sentiments in the Sound of Music classic, Something Good, a song that was not in the original stage version but was written additionally for the 1965 film. Nothing comes from nothing. Nothing ever could. So somewhere in my youth or childhood. I must have done something good.   It doesn’t take a mind reader to see wisps of underlying beliefs and assumptions rising like a gentle fog from the lyrics of this refrain. The words suggest that “good things happen to good people” or ...
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distorted thoughts and twisted truths – hidden beliefs exposed (part 2)

Now that you have considered some of your beliefs around the larger issues of life and discovered the power of a pause for noticing thoughts from  part one of this series, it is time to look deeper into the twists and turns of a thought process.   You may recall the following breakdown of the hundreds of encounters we have on a daily basis:   Situation Thought Feeling Action Result Knowing at which point, how and how often to pause in this process can be a challenging. We have so many thoughts in a day and cannot possibly stop at each one ...
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where the wild things are – hidden beliefs exposed (part 1)

  Hidden beliefs, core values and underlying assumptions are not quite so hidden from others as they are from ourselves. But to uncover them for us to see clearly, we need to look more deeply into where they hide.   Where did that come from?   Have you ever found yourself suddenly quite angry/ sad/ devastated/ ecstatic/ irritated/ fearful and much more so than the situation might typically call for? Or found yourself taking someone’s comment or action personally and wondered why you were so upset about it? What about experiencing the repetition of similar physical symptoms or obstacles at ...
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at a loss

  dreams of loss   They happen quite often for me. It can be dreams where I’ve lost something tangible, like my wallet, for instance. Or perhaps I’ve lost my way and am trying to get back on the path. Occasionally, I’ve even lost my footing and have that unsettling falling feeling that jerks me awake. Although, most often, I dream that I have no quiet space or privacy and I am eagerly searching for a place, any place in the oddness of the dream world, to find solitude. You don’t have to have a Jungian certificate in dream analysis ...
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