Reflections on Resilience

distorted thoughts and twisted truths – hidden beliefs exposed (part 2)

Now that you have considered some of your beliefs around the larger issues of life and discovered the power of a pause for noticing thoughts from  part one of this series, it is time to look deeper into the twists and turns of a thought process.   You may recall the following breakdown of the hundreds of encounters we have on a daily basis:   Situation Thought Feeling Action Result Knowing at which point, how and how often to pause in this process can be a challenging. We have so many thoughts in a day and cannot possibly stop at each one ...
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where the wild things are – hidden beliefs exposed (part 1)

  Hidden beliefs, core values and underlying assumptions are not quite so hidden from others as they are from ourselves. But to uncover them for us to see clearly, we need to look more deeply into where they hide.   Where did that come from?   Have you ever found yourself suddenly quite angry/ sad/ devastated/ ecstatic/ irritated/ fearful and much more so than the situation might typically call for? Or found yourself taking someone’s comment or action personally and wondered why you were so upset about it? What about experiencing the repetition of similar physical symptoms or obstacles at ...
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at a loss

  dreams of loss   They happen quite often for me. It can be dreams where I’ve lost something tangible, like my wallet, for instance. Or perhaps I’ve lost my way and am trying to get back on the path. Occasionally, I’ve even lost my footing and have that unsettling falling feeling that jerks me awake. Although, most often, I dream that I have no quiet space or privacy and I am eagerly searching for a place, any place in the oddness of the dream world, to find solitude. You don’t have to have a Jungian certificate in dream analysis ...
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stop, drop and breathe!

Have you ever noticed that there seems to be a common reaction to moments of sudden increased tension, unexpected news, or times when we’re nervous, frightened or otherwise overwhelmed?  We hold our breath.   You might recognize that you tend to hold your breath in the following situations: ~ a car stops suddenly in front of yours and you must break hard to avoid a collision ~ you hear that someone close to you has experienced a devastating loss ~ as a joke, someone jumps out at your from around a corner to “scare” you ~ you’re performing a physically ...
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mind clutter

Somewhere along the bumpy evolutionary path,  we have became chronic over-consumers and collectors.  It is absolutely no surprise then that ‘clutter happens’.  And more clutter means more to manage. Now as the cooler days and crisper nights have us now reaching for sweaters, socks and fleece blankets, ’tis the season to pack up and put away the collected odds and sods of summer living.  And even though we’ll miss the carefree feeling of sun-dresses and flip-flops, there is something so refreshing about marking the change of seasons with a ritual of storing away the old and bringing out new-to-this-year items ...
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that’s why it’s called practice

  There are days that my practice happens on a yoga mat. Some days it exists on a meditation cushion. Some days it is simply moments of listening actively to another person who is standing right in front of me.   But every single minute of every single day, my practice is to see what is in front of me without passing declarative judgment. To see, notice, accept then make choices based on the reality of the situation, not on my judgment of what is in front of me.   This “resist the urge to judge” practice has been severely ...
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performance anxiety

Testing, testing! In my role as an educator, it is most certainly during test-taking situations that student anxiety increases to distracting and limiting levels. Blocked by adrenaline power surges inappropriate for the situation and streaming negative self-talk, it is no wonder students are unable to effectively show what they know. But students in academic assessment situations are not the only ones who experience a nervousness that impairs performance. An important job interview. Presenting a cutting-edge proposal.  Initiating a difficult conversation. Speaking in public. Even going on a first date!  A little adrenaline goes a long way but too much can ...
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want not, get not

Deep down to your very core, what is it that you truly desire? Peace and solitude? Fame and fortune? Love and acceptance? Fun and distraction? Freedom from any pain or discomfort? Competence and efficiency? Knowing you are warmly valued by another? To make a difference in your world? Appreciation for what you produce and share? Camaraderie and affection? Acceptance of what “is”? All of the above? Do you even know?  Are you willing to do a few experiments to find out?     Experiment #1: Grab a friend. Sit across from each other. Breathe deeply and set the intention to ...
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medication/meditation

  Medication? The casual statement over dinner was not tossed into the centre of the table as a controversial conversation starter. To the one saying the words, it was a matter of fact and as practical as leftovers. “There’s no way we are meant to make it through this life without self-medicating.” Resistance bubbled up from somewhere deep inside of me. Wait! That can’t be right. Can it? And what does she mean by ‘self-medicating”? Does she think, like me, that self-medicating refers to anything that significantly distracts or numbs us to the way things really are? To take the ...
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a mindful student’s guide to managing stress

Mid-term mania is sweeping through high school hallways like a mid-autumn tropical storm. Research shows that the adolescent brain is not quite done ‘baking’ yet and is very much still in the developmental stage, so teens cope with stress much differently than adults.  Add an over-commitment to activities in and out of the classroom, teacher and parental expectations for consistently self-regulated behaviour and the increasing pressure on teens to figure out their future plans and you’ve got the makings of the perfect storm. Fear not, oh overwhelmed adolescent!   Not only does it get better as you get older, there ...
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