Reflections on Resilience

be where you are

  “I wish I was home already”. This was a vague, shadow of a thought I had while walking home from yoga class one day this summer. I was not having an off-day nor did I have anything pressing at home that needed my attention. In fact, I was the right in the middle of an absolutely splendid summer of rest and rejuvenation.   At that moment, I simply wanted to be further along the path than I was.   A few weeks later, the path led me down a busy city street of colourful sights and sounds in Santiago, ...
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no chance of rain

  You know that rare, unexpected moment when you look around you and notice that there are no major crises swallowing up your attention? You know the kind of event that seemingly hijacks your life and derails even your daily plans?  None. In that rare moment, even if you’re experiencing some confusion, minor loss, life dis-order or chronic busyness, the things you’re facing apparently do not qualify for the master list of significant life stressors so should be more or less manageable according to the creators of the master list. Quite recently, I realized that over a few weeks surrounded ...
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made you look

  What do you see when you’re not looking? I was recently driving by a large group of high-school students who were milling about and what cut through the uniformity of the bravado in baggy jeans was a young couple, in the midst of the crowd, motionlessly embracing each other.  There was absolutely nothing unique about them so why did they become the focal point?   It may be reasonable to assume that my attention might have also as easily rested on two people engaging in a fist-fight.  Or a solitary individual sitting alone just outside the hub of the ...
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the right tool for the job

  I have a quirky trait of stubbornly “making do” when faced with a task requiring a specific tool. My resistance rises with even the thought of purchasing a tool when I think that I may have an object that was made for a different purpose but will do in a pinch within arms reach. This approach has always seemed simpler, more practical and oh-so-much-more efficient than the alternative of the time-guzzling acts of browsing, shopping, listing pros and cons of which one is the best to buy, spending money on then cleaning, storing and organizing all the tools until ...
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how the race is won

  Time cast a spell on youBut you won’t forget me ~Stevie Nicks   Here we go again, working for Race Weekend! My original and extended family along with friends & honorary family members gather every spring to participate in a 5K run and this year marks our tenth event. It all began in 2004. It was early in the month of May 2004 that Ed Manion’s cancer was to have the final say in their on-going conversation. He was an unforgettable son, a brother, a husband, a father, an uncle, a grandfather, business owner, active community member and friend ...
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the first hundred are the hardest

 Thoughts on the first hundred years of my grandmother's life.  She passed at 103. I remember when she was scheduled to celebrate her 101st birthday in 2013.  The collective perception from those who saw her regularly is that she is slowing down somewhat in recent days. Her body was tiring, less resilient to chronic aches and pains, her mind a little foggier and memory not quite so reliable. At less than half her age, that was just a typical Friday night for me! Grandma will likely not be remembered by thousands nor memorialized for an iconic contribution to our nation ...
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taking a break from evolving

If memory serves, I was fourteen years old when I first came upon a dog-eared copy of a Wayne Dyer paperback in a cardboard box of my mother’s books and had my first close encounter with the concept of ‘self-actualization’. I was hooked. Ass-over-tea-kettle in love at first self-development sound byte. So what did it matter that I didn’t truly know what it meant or how following its siren call down the left-foot path of life would impact me from then on? If I’m computing correctly then that means I’ve been walking this personal growth road for literally decades which ...
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the habit of love

Without exception, she consistently, unabashedly expressed her joy daily when seeing me. She listened to my rants and rages without judging. Remained impartial and didn’t give unsolicited advice. With her, there was always a freedom to be my odd, obsessive self. Her stellar level of intuition meant that she most often knew I was sick well before I did. For fifteen years, this fellow introvert and I connected daily. Affectionate greetings. Shared silences. We were each other’s love habit. My friend was not human, much more of the feline persuasion, yet she has been a hard habit to break. She ...
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the sharpest tool

  “The journey of a thousand miles starts with a sharp pencil.” (shamelessly modified Chinese proverb)   Tucked into a corner classroom, far away from the hum of row-upon-row of high school exam-takers in the large auditorium, two dozen other students, with extra time and separate space testing accommodations, are hunched over math exams, graph paper,  unsolved x’s and y’s, calculators, word problems and flecks of eraser residue. The discomfort in the room is palpable. Compulsive glances at the clock, nail-biting, deep sighs and the occasional frustrated forehead dropping down onto a desk in a moment of utter math despair. ...
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the gift of waiting

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. (Joseph Campbell)   Waking up this past week in la belle province was a gift I gave myself in light of several significant losses that were weaved loosely throughout the fabric of my autumn. Although not intended as a way to avoid the discomfort of the stories that often accompany my sadness, the simple of act of choosing a new action despite my learned pattern to become inert with grief was a beneficial choice, for me.     A ...
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